Need advice but don’t want to ask your mother? A Grand Wedding.com is here to answer those questions that you’re afraid to ask your family. Fire away!
Question #1: Do I have to ask my sister-in-law to be one of my bridesmaids?
Answer #1: No. It’s your wedding, your rules.
Perhaps you’re not close with the sister…then it would be odd to have her as a bridesmaid and include her in all the bridesmaid’s activities. However, it may be a good first step to building a lifelong friendship with your soon-to-be-sister.
If you ultimately don’t want her to be a bridesmaid, we recommend you include her in some other way. Ask her to be your go-to person on your wedding day. Ask her to come with you to pick out your dress or flowers; invite her to a cake tasting. She’ll feel just as important, even without the ‘bridesmaid’ title.
Q #2: I have $1,000 to spend on the reception flowers. Around 128 people RSVP’d yes; we’re seating eight a table—that’s 16 tables. The centerpieces I want are $100 each. I can’t afford a centerpiece on each table. Got any suggestions?
A #2: Tons.
First, it sounds like you have the centerpieces you want in mind—perhaps you saw them in a magazine? If so, ask your florist to make flower substitutes—flowers that look very much like the ones you want, but with a more realistic price tag.
Or, splurge on those centerpieces but don’t have one on every table. On the tables you don’t have centerpieces for, opt for a cluster of white tea lights in round or square glass containers. When guests walk into the room they will be blown away by your amazing flowers and the glow of the room.
Q #3: I’m a second-time bride but I still want to wear the big, fancy wedding dress; not one of these tea-length things. Will people be offended?
A #3: Again, you’re the ultimate expert on your wedding. Would we be offended seeing you in another traditional wedding dress? No. We would know you, your new spouse, and most likely, your relationship history. And in this day and age, people are getting married, older—it’s almost odd if someone hasn’t been divorced!
You can still wear a ‘traditional’ wedding dress that doesn’t replicate your first one. If the first one was ‘princess,’ opt for sexy ‘mermaid’ style. It’s a new relationship, a new marriage and a new love—completely different. Let bygones be bygones and be fabulous.
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